Like you, when I hear/see a problem, I am often rushing in to offer solutions (ESPECIALLY WITH MY KIDS). The irony here is that I have actual honest to god training NOT TO DO THAT. When I was a LLL leader (peer-to-peer breastfeeding counseling) we were told NOT to give advice. Ever. We were to empathize, build a connection, and offer information. I find it much easier to do with people I'm not emotionally wrapped up.
DH has been hounding me that I am parenting all wrong (he may not actually be doing this, but this is my perception). I think I need to start the day with the mantra that I am not going to give advice. To anyone. Unless they put my feet to the fire:D
Thank you for this. I think you are right, we are so acculturated to goals and solutions, we forget that the path is just as important (didn't you say something about that when we were chatting?).
Lovely post.
Oh, and with regards to replies, if spoons are low, know that I do not keep track of who replies to what. Feel free to never reply if you don't have the energy or desire. Unless I am expecting an answer about getting together, which is usually through email, not DW comments. <3
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Date: 2013-07-19 07:00 pm (UTC)DH has been hounding me that I am parenting all wrong (he may not actually be doing this, but this is my perception). I think I need to start the day with the mantra that I am not going to give advice. To anyone. Unless they put my feet to the fire:D
Thank you for this. I think you are right, we are so acculturated to goals and solutions, we forget that the path is just as important (didn't you say something about that when we were chatting?).
Lovely post.
Oh, and with regards to replies, if spoons are low, know that I do not keep track of who replies to what. Feel free to never reply if you don't have the energy or desire. Unless I am expecting an answer about getting together, which is usually through email, not DW comments. <3