Dec 2 2013 Good Things

[untonuggan]

The weirdest thing about this grief so far is the absence of Rogue's presence; the sheer number of times I turn to look for him and he is not physically there.

1. Have decided that talking to my recenty deceased dog as a kind of guiding force is not weird, and is in fact good copes.
2. Tea. I'm half-Brit, what can I say, emergency/crisis = tea (as does basically every other situation).
3. Music. It covers up the lack of canine noises in the house, and provides something for my mind to focus on.
4. Years of therapy, providing a healthy foundation of coping skills to fall back on.
5. Snuggling up to my partner at night.
6. That moment, just for a second, when I thought the dog was still alive when I woke up, was excruciating bliss.
7. My grandmother is coming to visit in less than three weeks and that will provide much needed grandma time, distraction, and Things To Do.
8. Made my mom and I breakfast this morning, which prevented me from eating chocolate whipped cream for breakfast and made sure my mom actually ate. (Instead we had homemade bread toasted, scrambled eggs with bell pepper, and tea.)
9. Bread making. Seriously, best distraction ever right now.
10. Light box. Win.
11. Surprisingly, eleven things. Have updated the Rogue Memorial Flickr Pool with more photos.
12. And more. Gotten a lot of nice messages here and on facebook and by text and everything, including my sister actually (gasp) saying, "I love you" and a friend donating to Border Terrier Rescue in Rogue's memory, which is about the sweetest thing ever. <3

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Just goes to prove that even on one of the shittiest days ever, there are good things to be found.

Comments

[tyger]

*more big fluffy hugs!* I don't really have words, but I'm here. <3<3<3<3<3

[untonuggan]

That is really helpful! <3 <3 <3

[syntaxofthings]

Tea :) Also I'm so glad you made yourself breakfast. Breakfast is good.

[untonuggan]

:) Yeah, breakfast is important.

[sauscony]

Hugs. I'm not sure how many generations removed from Great Britain my grandmother was (and she was a coffee person), but tea/herbal tea has kept me stable for years now.

[untonuggan]

<3 :)

[green_knight]

I am glad you find good things to hang on. Dealing with absence of loved ones is hard.

[untonuggan]

Yeah...it's...yeah. </3

[sid]

Coping, eating, tea, music, snuggling, baking...you're doing very well! *hugses*

[untonuggan]

<3 Thank you

[shanaqui]

Have decided that talking to my recenty deceased dog as a kind of guiding force is not weird, and is in fact good copes.

My nan had a dog, Scamp, when I was growing up. He was her dog in name, but if I called, he came, so he was my dog in our hearts. He guarded me, adored me, slept on my feet while I read, got old as I grew up. If I try to think of the purest comfort I've ever had, it'd be him or my grampy. So I still talk to him, still try to imagine his weight on my feet when I'm sat reading or crocheting, still sometimes feel that if I turned around, he'd be there. We carry them with us -- they'll never leave us. It's completely normal and it is a good way to cope. Rogue's with you and will never leave.

[untonuggan]

Thank you for sharing, this was both lovely and reassuring.

[raze]

*hugs* You need a big friggen gold star for healthy coping, really. <3

[untonuggan]

:) Thanks

[hyperbole]

*hugs*

[untonuggan]

<3

[cadenzamuse]

Your dog is a damn sensible guiding force, as guiding forces go.

*huge hugs*

[untonuggan]

Yeah, pretty much. <3 *hugs*

[rainbow]

*hughughug* i think talking to rogue is very good coping <3

xxooxxoo for allt he good things!

[untonuggan]

*snugs*

[st_aurafina]

I talked to Ajax, our little kitty, for ages. And saw him and felt him a lot around the house, too - I didn't really care if it was just sense memory on my part or some form of his energy remaining, because it was a comfort either way. One night I swear he jumped up on the bed and curled up in a ball, and it was so peaceful and lovely.

*hugs hugs* Still thinking of you. You are looking after yourself in amazing ways, and I'm glad that you can see it.